By Cozette Eldridge
W.P. Co. RSVP Field Representative
Years ago, my two aunts had an argument and never forgave each other. They lived in the same town and never contacted or spoke to one another for over twenty years, when one aunt died. As time passed, neither could quite recall what the argument had been about.
I’ve seen families torn apart over disagreements and divorced people hating each other, many ending up bitter and alone.
Wounds caused by what loved ones, friends, colleagues and employers say and do can affect you at a deep level. Hanging onto hurt can harm you even more. Not only is it bad for your mental, emotional and physical health, but also it can draw more distress into your life.
To work toward forgiveness, you need to acknowledge what happened, how it affected you and discover what you can learn from it. Any true forgiveness clears the path for you to go on with your life in a positive way.
Before you can forgive, you need to understand what you’re forgiving. What principles, beliefs or expectations were violated. Whatever you feel was destroyed must be identified before you can truly forgive. Most people experience anger because of a hurt. If you hold onto anger, you’re doing so to try to protect yourself and keep the event from happening again.
If you feel a loss of belief in another person, grieving over the loss is necessary and expected. A relationship with the other person has altered, but you can choose to emerge stronger from this process.
If you choose to forgive, you’re not pardoning or excusing what happened. You’re making a choice to let go of any anger towards them for your own sake. Because you’ve forgiven, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t consequences from their actions. You may forgive a person but not want them in your life any longer. Any trust is permanently broken, and you know they won’t change. Although you want no further association with them, by forgiving, you are freeing them and yourself to move on with your lives.
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